My anxiety days are as rare as hen`s teeth, but when they do happen; – Unknowingly fiction gets a better grip of me.
I`ve always been a quick witted and high intensive person.
Having such a character means that you can easily read in between the lines, notice small changes that occur to people, their change of moods; especially the energy they give off. I can easily sense when someone is having a bad day, or when they don’t want people around them. Same goes for someone who tries to brag or show off.
And this set of traits always makes you ponder deeply about small things compared to the average people. I’m always super analytical about choices/decisions. I always tries to find sense and reason to whatever phenomenon I’m exposed to. I even sometimes try to put myself in their shoes, trying to get a hold of their state of mind or to understand why they projected such a reaction.
All of this is enjoyable and exciting as long you are in a good mood, feeling confident of yourself. But as soon as your low moods crashes in, and those same habits occurs again, life suddenly gets difficult, hard.
In this state of mind all of those analyses results in being some king of “information fatigue”; and the latter tends to tricks me into fears and doubts about my past action/accomplishments and then a bigger problem crops up.
Now, I feel restless; I have the impression that everyone is having everything figured out. Even if it’s a big mistake to have such a thought, at that moment you fabricate perfect logic that prevents you realizing it. You then conclude that everyone is walking on the right path, with their future and goals aligned right in front of them, whereas you, still in doubts, trying hard to figure out which way to take.
I`m sure everyone has at some point of their lives experienced what anxiety felt like, even mild.
For me I usually get nervous, overwhelmed, I start to overthink what`s going to happen in the future. I start to play through every scenario, where eventually it gets uncontrollable and I feel like everything is going to fall apart. But still you want to relax, yet you can`t!
“The Hymn of Every Mind” perfectly describes what I mean by having difficulties to relax. My anxiety is manageable but difficult to handle, you get exhausted really quickly and starts to spiral down in the troubled thoughts that the “boss mind” produces.
When something gets bruised or broken at home, and if it’s within one`s own ability and facility to repair the damaged incurred; I’m sure everyone will attempt at least once to repair it.
Similarly I view mental well-being the same way. As long as my doubt/anxiety is minor/manageable it’s good to have a toolbox to resort to when to have to do these kinds of repairs.
- Use anchor thoughts
When anxiety hits, we are usually hard wired to pick up on negative stuffs. And one way to outweigh the amount of negativity that we pick up is using anchor thoughts. The latter is a powerful tool that helps your limiting beliefs from growing into worry or anxiety.
Just like the ship anchor prevents the ship from drifting and straying from its path into the open sea; Anchor thoughts keep an individual from wandered into the foggy forest of his mind, getting lost.-betheriskymind
Anchor thoughts are powerful reminders that influence our attitude, speech, and behavior. As an individual; anchor thoughts can be picked up from others (parents, religion, and celebrities) or created by one false assumption of logic of society`s way of operating.
-A male is driven by his need for power and recognition. He is convinced though false messages he picked up that his proof of manliness is going to be measured by factors such as girlfriends, money, cars, physique, etc.…And acting on his belief, he creates emotional disaster for himself.
This is a classic example of what I defined to be as faulty anchor thoughts.
Another faulty example:
- I feel awful. I don’t belong in this role.
This same sentence can be written more positively
-I don’t have to know everything now. I can figure things out as I go and I know how to ask help when I need it.
- I wish I hadn`t done that
-I can`t change the past, but I can learn from it and be a little better than I was yesterday.
These are obvious, easy thoughts that everyone know about, but during those down times, everyone tends to forget about it. That`s why I think it’s important to dig up for those positive anchor thoughts; to remind yourself that it’s not that worst.
2. Keep your physical health in check
The same way your mental health affects your physicality, caring for your physical health can uplift your mood. Exercise regularly, maintain a good diet, get a good amount of consistent sleep and stay hydrated. Lack of water results in your body being lethargic.
3. Beware of your modified perspective
When you’re down, you lack perspective. It gets to be shallow, modified, tricking you into believing your life sequences are crumbling. When in a good mood, life looks great. You have a completely different perspective, common sense, wisdom. In good moods things don’t feel so hard, problems seems less formidable and easier to solve; relationship seem to flow and communication is easy.
On the contrary, when you are anxious, life looks unbrearingly serious and difficult. You have very little perspective; you take things personally and often misinterpret those around you. During this period it’s absolutely not the time to analyse your life. Let it pass first.
4. You are being reminded of its significance
Anxiety can be a sign telling you that you are frustrated about some aspect of your life; and that you either need to change or break out of it (the pattern).
For the strong minds:
Anxiety is like a significance gauge:
The more the thing that you are doing or going to do stress you out; the more it has significance on your goals.
So if you are at a point where anxiety is overwhelming you; this can mean that what you are or about to do is of utmost importance.
In both cases it’s either telling you it is extremely important or maybe useless to invest into it.
It’s your job to assess and draw your conclusion.
5. Manage your thoughts
Humans think a lot.
Some of these thoughts are going to be positive and productive. Unfortunately many of them are also going to be negative, fearful, pessimistic, and worrisome.
Indeed the intention of becoming more peaceful is not whether or not you’re going to have negative thoughts. It’s what you choose to do with them.
In a practical sense you have 2 options when it comes to dealing with them. You can analyses your thoughts- ponder, think through, study some more; or you can learn to ignore them.
Whenever you get stuck replaying scenarios (past/future imaginable ones) in your head, catch yourself when you start doing this useless and inefficient act. It’s like breaking the cycle, to do something.
I think this fifth point sounds like I’m going against my own principles, especially what I wrote previously about distracting the mind, referring to it as a baby. I even ended defining that “Reasons” was the main drive to keep going.
But for the long run keep hanging on that principle is more self-destructing. The world as we know is like a giant circus. All laws and principles work and contradict themselves now and then without exception.
This debate with my own principles is concrete proof that our perspective changes as our state of mind changes.
One newer principle is the “Absurdity of the world” first introduced to me by Nathaniel Drew.
He explained that we simply need to exist first, and then figure out our purpose.
This sentence greatly clashes with the new society`s concept of existence, where our presence and visibility into the world relies heavily on fitting into society through showing membership or belonging to a certain distinct group. It’s like either you are religious or senseless.
Now whenever my thoughts snowball, I stop myself and shift my focus onto something else. This in turn helps me to stop getting into more absurd analysis of my life.
There is also a saying that says:
If you keep thinking about it for 24 hrs. You need to talk about it within 48 hrs.
But you need to choose wisely to whom you are telling your fears to. Whenever you are overwhelmed you tend to be vulnerable, hastily wanting to lighten that burden off your chest.
And then if someone who isn`t really wise or open minded hears about your story; and narrates it to someone else within his perception of what he understood; I cannot imagine what will happen when 50 different version of your life gets released.
Then there is a second problem that usually stems from lack of perspective from different people viewing or experiencing the same problem.
Imagine all those dogs walking through a muddy field. Which one do you think has the most difficulty?
Same happens to humans when they experience difficulties in life.
Thus someone narrating his problem to another individual may be interpreted as bragging to the latter.
One`s mutual understanding of individuals will be always limited due to our inability to exchange our viewing lenses.
If you live a have a certain lifestyle, this way of living is your normal. And if something happens to that lifestyle of yours, which is the normal of someone else lifestyle; I don’t think there will be sincere understanding between them.
There are always levels of apathy among all the sympathies that one receives, where virtuality is given credit for.-betheriskymind
6. Thinking your way out of it is a really bad option
Wiser thing to do is to address it, know how, why and that it is here. And most importantly, you need to push through it and keep going.
Anxiety is like a firecracker, as soon as it lights up, it blows off within seconds, producing colors and sounds and ultimately dies out and becomes clam. Mostly dead.
Most of us hesitates to even light the firecracker of anxiety as it’s similar to seeking discomfort. But what we fail to realise is that it trips off soon after.
In seeking that discomfort you are informing your mind that it needs to check all the above points (boxes). Because when you don’t address those small confusion in your mind, most often it grows to a point that doesn`t even reflect reality.
-Walk along with it until it lets go of your hand