Ever wondered how Stonehenge got here?
Who build those?
What was 60’s love like?
We were not even present to see the Roman Empire. But we still have amazing books, paintings, pictures, videos or movies depicting that era.
In 50 years, 1000 years people will be saying things like what was life in 2021?
Maybe they’ll talk about the COVID pandemic as we now talk about the Black Death.
Maybe they would want to know what it feels like to walk on the street at our time, to see how people sounded when they spoke.
Of course they sound like you and me.
-We are those people.
This means that we are just making history as we go. We are living the future history.
Books will be written about our civilization. Movies will be made about our time we call today.
They will exploit what history will give them as hint on how we used to live. One day we will be the romans.
The same way we now talk about Nero the madman, Commodus the gladiator, Julius Cesar or Spartacus; the future generations will narrate our time the same way.
I think they will most probably remember the famous people of our era, like we are currently doing for the romans.
Then what about us? It will be as if we never existed. There will no proof or trace of us down here.
Those are worries of the future history about our existence.
What about now?
Our present bears resemblance of that same dilemma:
Nowadays it’s easy to track every aspect of anything.
- How many people know about you.
- How many houses or cars you have.
- How many writings have you published.
- How many people liked your latest post.
We then easily get carried away and develop a sense of self-worth or existence in those numbers.
Matter of fact; our attention online goes to half if not completely to people that are talented, physically beautiful or are extreme at anything that they undertake. Which in a sense is making us acknowledge that these types of people are worth of the world’s attention- which is really not an accurate perception of what most people are.
Still it would be fair to say that at times we all have our moments, where we want to feel or be treated special. That’s in itself not a big deal. That’s biological, even animals have such instincts.
However it’s extremely different compared to someone who has the desire, attitude, or indeed expectation as part of their basic character makeup.
We all know someone that fits this picture.
-Yup, he’s the one.
It would imply that he is as a minimum putting up to be different from others or the normal. Maybe they are already successful in terms of society` definition of success or they have an extremely self-inflated view of themselves. Usually quite centered characters, coming across as arrogant with loads of ego driven decisions and actions.
‘You are living a life where every moment has you at the very center of it’
This is kind of problematic because you aren’t the centre of the universe. There are plenty of other things going on at any given moment.
Taken from: Existence through attention
I think feeling special gives people a sense of identity. As species, humans seek for acknowledgement of their own actions. Some achieve it in a natural way, as a byproduct of one’s calling in life. Then there are those who goes after it, and force it through portraits of their life, “making others know” of what they do or can do.
Maybe they are not sure about it themselves. That’s why they are providing proof and facts of it.
Let’s scrap history from prehistoric:
At start life was merely around survival. Then we started forming tribes and started to need each other to survive.
To achieve it we needed to work together. Each one has an important contributing specific goal. Few weren’t part of that movement at all. The ones that got a good feeling of responsibility and importance were more likely to survive and reproduce. The one that didn’t have those assigned importance died out.
Now years ahead of history. Power flowed into the hands of those that are at the top of social hierarchy. And the average people have almost no power in what’s happening in our community. We can say that many of us are not needed for the modern society to function. Especially with thinking’s like Chuck Noll
“Everyone’s job is important, but no one is indispensable”Chuck Noll
Many of us are starting to lose that feeling of being part of something bigger than ourselves.
That’s one of the psychological reasons we have a new trend called “Hikikomori” on the rise.
What’s our importance?
Weight of our contribution in our society?
Who uses those contributions? – People
So it means people need our contribution, and then only we are proved important.
When they don’t need ours?
What’s the next idea of contribution?betheriskymind
I`m aware it’s not all about it, but it is one of the reason people are so fanatic about some concept or aspect of life be it significantly appreciable or not. They have a strong urge in forming or joining cults, social group like masses, where they can feel special themselves.
Not just the contribution, but more of the recognition?
Upbringing as a status
These people are funny exceptions. They believe they are on another par without even constructing the idea of it. Unfortunately they carry this type of character which certainly appears natural to them, where others can seen to be most uncomfortable in all of their acts and reactions to their surroundings.
I want to point out that this type of character can emerge due to influence from their social backgrounds or cultural standings.
Our character almost emerges as a reflection of our upbringing, parenting, or education. This would in turn suggest that what can be seen to be as a forceful act is indeed natural and reality to them.
For example Extreme royalties or Aristocrats.
For them it’s healthy; and is more unlikely they’ll ever change unless having some kind of therapy.
But would they ever think that? I highly doubt so. Maybe what they will need is a shock or system of bringing reality to them on a plate, which will drag them right back down on earth with a big smile, followed by a heavy blow> “Welcome to the real world”.
Feeling/Being special: The reality at the peak
Inside society we have a structure that teaches us with tangible proof that with money you can obtain everything you want. With it you can have all your needs fulfilled. Well it’s not wrong just a half-baked structure.
Their concept applies only to the materialistic part of the objects you like to use, or the superficial aspect of the relationship you have with people. Today if you want genuine connections with people, money won’t get you there. Some tends to forget that people do have self-respect for themselves. Not all of them would fake everything for money.
Wanting to be or feel special goes beyond financial success.
Once again Maslow hierarchy of needs
I`m confident that the majority of us don’t ever get to reach that last level. I`m myself trying to get to it but there more you realize you need to get to it, the more doubts creep in. we are all stuck at the other levels, mainly because they are the more comfortable ones, or maybe we think that there is nothing beyond that current level that we are currently at.
The cruel truth is, if you can sit down and thinks how you can reach that 5th level, consider yourself extremely lucky. I mean, how can you ask a homeless man to reach self-actualization when he doesn’t know what he will eat or where he will sleep tonight. How can you ask someone morally broken to get his social needs met?
Putting this aside;
Why was the 5th level designed to be self-actualization?
But then again what is self-actualization?
Some will say it is about someone who can fully exploit his talents while still being mindful of his limitations. Others may term it as maturity.
From studies conducted throughout history; self-actualized people do exhibit some pattern, which they blend with their personality:
- Acceptance of themselves or others (not on a pity basis whatsoever)
- Well-developed sense of creativity
- Maintain deep and meaningful relationships
- Autonomous existence
- Sense of humor, especially with their own mistake
- Can perceive reality accurately
- Sense of purpose
- Marlow ‘peak experiences’
- Ongoing appreciation of goodness of life
And the list goes on…
Someone can claim with words that he displays all of that and much more; but to have it within you is a whole another thing. Indeed all these traits are envious ones that we all want to exhibit as fads.
When you get to self-actualization you’ll be special.
When you realize life in another way, and gets ‘self-actualized’ you will at this very moment, want to set you apart from others to be able to draw your own journey. And when you do that you are going to be special in a sense, whether you like it or not.
The beautiful thing about it, it’s passive.
You will have no urge or need to display yourself, to want to draw that much attention. There will be far more important things before your eyes than wanting to be special.
Because self-actualized people have a strong sense of purpose and self-awareness, they always question their own journey making them aware of their goal of focus.
Many want to go after self-actualization as a goal. Instead they are most likely going to construe a fallacy; a reality which sadly is an insult to the whole idea of self-actualization. Still this does happen more frequently that we can image. I usually attribute this defeat of reaching the peak as a lack of understanding regarding their purpose.
They don’t seem to catch the whole essence of being special.
We are all special; the way we are all equal.
There`s no question of superiority.
So what happens when you recognize that you’ll live life form this acknowledgement?
Most probably you won’t need it anymore. And for me that’s a big burden that I can let go of.
When I know or did something that I myself takes pride into, I’ll just contemplate it.
It’s a waste to tell people what to do or think. You can exert far more experience by doing what you think is right in your life- exploding your values.
Playing the game well will make others want to play it like yours.